letter to David J. Stewart
David J. Stewart
I want to thank you and praise you for your work and study in scripture,
and your calling people everywhere to live Godly lives
have been reading some of your postings, and am encouraged by some of your
statements on marriage and I quote them here.
Life is what happens to you
while you're making big plans. Most people place their marriage at the bottom of
their list of priorities. Your marriage should come first, friends and family
down on the list. By the way, church should come down on the list too. Nothing
should be any higher on your list of priorities than your spouse. Only God comes
higher, and God wants you to love each other above all else. If you don't, then
nothing else really matters.
You know, why is it that many people who want a
divorce go around quoting Jesus' statement on adultery; but I never hear these
people quote Malachi 2:16 where God say he HATES divorce, “For the LORD, the
God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away.”
“Putting away” is the Old Testament term used for divorce
heard a divorced woman quote Malachi 2:14 concerning husbands who deal
“treacherously” with their wives; but the context of the Scripture passage is
strictly divorce. That is, a husband who divorces his wife is dealing
treacherously with her, especially if they've been married for a long
time. God HATES divorce! Why don't I ever heard women quoting Jeremiah 3:20...
“Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband,
so have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel, saith the LORD.”
It is divorce that is treacherous.
I also have some questions
of some of the things you say.
You Say: "I sincerely believe
many marriages are failing because of the monotony and stress of the
My Thought: This Maybe so but it should not be in
thoses that call themselfs Christians. God is our provider, God is our defender,
God is our saviour, God is our healer, God is our instructor and
We are to be thanking Him in and for all
And be not drunk with wine, wherein is
excess; but be filled with the Spirit; 19Speaking to yourselves in psalms and
hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the
Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21Submitting yourselves one
to another in the fear of God.
Rejoice evermore. 17Pray without ceasing. 18In every
thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning
Are we operating in the will of God, or outside of his
will??? Is He really our provider? Do we trust him and give him thanks in
You Say: "I cannot tell you what
to do, for only you can make the decisions that guide your life; BUT if your
spouse has left you and is not remarried yet,"
My Thought: (??? marriage is untill death!!!) any marriage to someone else
is only adultry.
You Say: "I would suggest that you call her/him and
attempt to make things right. I would also suggest that you ask your pastor if
he'll go with you to visit your spouse. Only sinful pride causes divorce. There
have been many instances of divorced couples actually getting remarried."
My Thought: very good advice.
You Say: "It is NEVER
right for you to leave and then remarry (because you are the guilty party for
leaving). Whoever FILES for divorce is the guilty party (???) (as far as
the divorce itself)… If you are truly a victim (???) of
divorce (i.e., your spouse abandoned you), then God knows your situation and I
believe you are free to remarry after a few years.
My Thought: Where is the scriptural basis of this
"guilty party and innocent victim" thinking? And where is the
scriptural time frame of "a few years"???
Hey I like
these thoughts you share "Citing Romans 6:14 they cry, "We’re under grace, not
law!" Yet they ignore the first half of the same verse which declares, "For
sin shall not have dominion over you." "
"My purpose in writing this article is to lead anyone who reads
it to the conviction that divorce is not an acceptable alternative. To resolve
any problem, a person must weigh the alternatives, then discard the unacceptable
and pursue the acceptable. Likewise, couples with serious marital problems are
finally faced with only two alternatives–resolution of the problems, or else
divorce. If Christians will come to unanimous agreement that divorce is not an
acceptable alternative, then they can give themselves wholeheartedly to
resolving the problems that they are faced with. My earnest prayer and desire is
that broken homes might be rebuilt and strengthened, rather than divided and
destroyed by divorce. That must begin with the firm conviction that
divorce is not an acceptable alternative, especially for
AND I think What you say here is important:
”But there are two types of prohibitions found in the Greek language. The
aorist subjunctive prohibition would be used to forbid a thing beforehand. The
present imperative prohibition forbids the continuance of an act already in
My Thoughts: First scripture: DO NOT ALLOW man to
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
asunder (divorce) Matthew 19:6, Mark 10:9,
let none deal treacherously
(divorce) against his wife Malachi 2: 14-16,
Let not the wife depart
from her husband … let not the husband put away (divorce) his wife..
1Corinthians 7:10, 11.
If I command: "Do not close the door", and you
find the door closed, what then? You say I didn't close it so it's not my
responsibly to see that it gets opened. But if I say, "Let not the door be
closed", that implies you and everyone that heard the command, not only to not
close the door, but also to open it if it is closed. We need to be active
watchmen. Not allowing men to think they can take apart what God says is not
HOW Can we stop Allowing or let not people to Divorce and Remarry?
1 By being informed about what Marriage really is.
2 By speaking
the truth in love because we care about them more than what they might think we care.
3 By not calling people who are in adultery “Husband and Wife” or
“Mr. and Mrs. New-Last-name” Just call them by their first names and do not
refer to them as husband or wife. Be sure to share the truth of God’s word with
them, just do it with love. If someone is headed for hell because of adultery we
need to warn them.
4 and By holding people accountable to their word
vowed in their first marriage and to God's word.
that is enough for now, I will continue to read through your website to
get a fuller understanding of your thinking. And I will no doubt have more
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